Don't you hate the "insta-bound" that's created between the recently divorced? By slipping up in casual conversation with a stranger, you happen to mention your divorce, you know, just to offer perspective, and then it happens... the connect. Now you have someone whose name you long forgot, sharing their most intimate details of personal destruction, inviting you to compare battle scars. This rarely ends well. In fact, you might as well pick a comfortable position standing or sitting because, this poor soul just unknowingly added some coins to your parking meter.
Don't get me wrong, exchange between "the divorced" can go off well, but it's all about the filter and the exit strategy. Those who have been divorced for 5+ years have successfully managed their emotions enough to dip in and right out of the subject of the horrors of divorce. It's different for those whose experience is much fresher. Because people are at different points in their healing process, you need to guard yourself. Make no mistake, the wrong conversations over and over again can keep you trapped in the haze of emotion, that divorced people find themselves in, but need to escape.
Resources
http://womentodaymagazine.com/relationships/life_divorce.html
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Augustine13.html
Don't get me wrong, exchange between "the divorced" can go off well, but it's all about the filter and the exit strategy. Those who have been divorced for 5+ years have successfully managed their emotions enough to dip in and right out of the subject of the horrors of divorce. It's different for those whose experience is much fresher. Because people are at different points in their healing process, you need to guard yourself. Make no mistake, the wrong conversations over and over again can keep you trapped in the haze of emotion, that divorced people find themselves in, but need to escape.
Resources
http://womentodaymagazine.com/relationships/life_divorce.html
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Augustine13.html
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